How much we know and understand ourselves is critically important, but there is something that is even more essential to living a Wholehearted life: loving ourselves.
Brene Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection
I truly admire the courage it takes people to own their stories. Awareness, mindfulness, being present and showing up for life are part of that process. These behaviours take time, energy, commitment and huge courage. As we move through this journey of growth, how we treat ourselves is just as critical.
I want to highlight one of Brene’s wholehearted guideposts that supports loving ourselves. Its one many adults often forget.
Guide Post # 7:
Cultivating Play and Rest: Letting go of exhaustion as a status symbol and productivity as self-worth.
In developing this guidepost she explored the work of play researcher Stuart Brown. Rather then defining play he came up with specific properties.
1. Time spent without purpose.
2. Something you don’t want to end, something you want to extend and keep going.
3. When engaged in play there is a loss of hyper self consciousness….you don’t care how you are being perceived. (Delicious!!)
JUST SOUNDS LIKE FUN READING IT!!!
What is it about play that so many adults find difficult? In Brene’s research she actually found that play can be a shame trigger. The thought of being called lazy or unproductive is enough of a trigger for some of us to stay away from play. If this is something you are struggling with, here are some of the benefits you might be interested to know.
“ Respecting our biologically programmed need for play can transform work. It can bring back excitement and newness to our job. Play helps us deal with difficulties, provides a sense of expansiveness, promotes mastery of our craft, and is an essential part of the creative process. Most important, true play that comes from our own inner needs and desires is the only path to finding lasting joy and satisfaction in our work. In the long run, work does not work without play.”
Stuart Brown, Play: How it Shapes the Brain, Opens the Imagination, and Invigorates the Soul
I love play…. and I miss it when I neglect it. It feeds my soul and always reconnects me to that place of worthiness …….and its just plan fun! Rumour has it the sun is going to shine all weekend….22 degrees….so get out there and play. Lastly, remember, “ The opposite of play is not work– the opposite of play is depression.” Stuart Brown